Bad Boys
This past weekend, our church continued the series, “Bad Boys of the Bible.” As you know, I find that reviewing these lessons here is the best way for me to share the word of God as well as reflect on the lesson each week.First, we took a look back at some of the most popular bad boys of our time:
  • 1950s: The original bad boy of Hollywood…Mr. James Dean. He lived by these words, “Live fast, die young and leave a good looking corpse.” And he did. 
  • 1970s: The “Fonz” 
  • 1980s: Bad boy on the tennis courts. John McEnroe 
  • 1990s: Dennis Rodman
  • 2000s: Big Ben Roethlisberger
  • Today: Mr. Tiger Blood himself…Charlie Sheen – who until recently was the highest paid actor on television.
  • Even better…Bentley???

    What is it about “BAD BOYS” that makes our heart go weak? What’s the appeal? I’m as guilty of it as the next – just before meeting my husband, I couldn’t get enough of this type. Actually, if I’m honest, I actually married a reformed bad boy. So help me out…why are we attracted to these types of guys?

    Shaunti Feldhahn, wrote a book called FOR YOUNG MEN ONLY. In this book, she interviewed a number of young women to help young men understand “the alien gender.” In one of her chapters, she focuses on “bad boy.” Interestingly enough, what she found was that women are attracted to specific qualities that most bad boys have such as:
    • Confidence
    • Adventuresome Spirit
    • Spontaneity
    • Protective Instinct
    • Dominance
    • Decisiveness

    In her studies, she also found a number of qualities that were not attractive (such as foul language, arrogance, “smart mouth,” and sarcasm) about “bad boys,” but the attractive qualities seem to lure us in.Whatever the case, this week’s message was all about the most notorious bad boy of them all.
    • This man should have been a no-name based on who his parents were and where he was born.
    • He was a “know-it-all.” Everything he said was said with absolute authority.
    • Rather than fight with weapons, he would fight back by drawing a line in the sand.
    • He associated with the “low lifes” of society.
    • He was not concerned with being accepted by others. 
    • Even when others doubted him, he still believed.
    • People often tried to kill him. Once they did, it didn’t keep him down.
    Yes, it was Jesus. Jesus was never a “bad boy” for many of the reasons that the men above were labeled “bad boys;” nor was he disobedient to our Holy Father. However, he was a revolutionary for his time. For example, when Jesus came along, it was unheard of to even say the name of GOD, yet Jesus proclaimed that HE is God.

    In John 4, we find Jesus left Judea and went back to Galilee after the Pharisees have learned that he was gaining more popularity (and baptizing more disciples than John the Baptist – he essentially had a big bulls eye on his back). The shortest route from Judea to Galilee would have been to go through Samaria. And in John 4:4, Jesus does just that.

    I’m not sure I realized this (or never really processed it), but Samaria was a place that most of the Jewish people avoided…much like avoiding rush hour traffic or a bad part of town, they would go out of their way to avoid the Samaritan people.
    John 4:5-10 So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon.

    When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”
    So here we have Jesus speaking with a Samaritan woman at a well at noon. Most women would have gathered their water in the morning or evening to avoid the heat of the day. We later learn that this woman is unmarried (having been divorced five times) and is living with a man who is not her husband. Jews wouldn’t have associated with her because she’s Samaritan, but even her own people have socially outcast her.
    John 4:23-26 “Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.” The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus declared, “I, the one speaking to you—I am he.”
    I am He RS
    At this point, the Disciples, who had gone into town to find food, return. They are surprised to see Jesus talking to this Samaritan woman but do not say anything. Meanwhile, this woman goes into town to spread the word:
    John 4:28-29: Then, leaving her water jar, the woman went back to the town and said to the people, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?”
    I love that this week we focused on Jesus…who was considered a bad boy of his time. I guess, in this particular instance, it’s a good thing to be attracted to the “bad boy.” Outside of that, there’s a bigger lesson. I think we all know a “Samaritan.” Perhaps it’s an individual…a part of town…a group of people…a coworker…a neighbor…even a family member…maybe you’re the Samaritan. Who are the Samaritans in your life? Who do you avoid?  Whoever it is, I think we’ve got to examine why we’re avoiding them.

    Jesus goes to great lengths to reach each and every one of us. Therefore, if we are to live our lives like Christ, then we’ve got to change our ways. I mentioned this last week and I think the same holds true, “Give people the benefit of a doubt. Not everyone is out to hurt you. If we only knew (or tried to understand) the baggage people carried around with them, we might be more gracious.” I take it that I still haven’t completely learned this lesson.

    If you are interested in seeing/hearing the original message entitled “Shooting Straight,” click HERE.

      I really liked this one. Thank you for doing this each week!

      HA! I love that you have Bentley on the list

      Oh wow! I never thought of Jesus like that. What a great sermon.

      Yes! I love the Jesus was a badboy. Such confidence he had and guts. He was soo brave and come on…he walked in sandals and bare feet….that to me is just awesome and showed his strength. He is the man…fo sho. :) love that your church is doing this series..can’t wait to hear more!

      Ashley! Thank you for sharing this! It made me smile because it is such a cool way to look at things!

      you poured your heart into it, I love the post

      I think I need to go to your church. :) I loved this post. Thank you for sharing.

      Marla @

      this story is a perfect example of God’s love for us and his total acceptance of us, as sinners. Its a love that accepts us as we are and no matter our past we can come to him. He reached out his hand to her and she took it. Can you imagine what she was thinking at the time, a woman completely cast out of the community? Your last comment certainly got me thinking, do I have any samaritans in my life that I have turned away.. I certainly hope not!

      I guess I had never really thought of Jesus as a “bad boy” but your points make me reconsider. I think the idea of extending that hand out to the people we want to avoid is one of the hardest parts about becoming like Christ, maybe because we have to go outside of our comfort zones. Anyway, this is a really wonderful post today!

      I love the sentence at the end when you state, “Jesus goes to great lengths to reach each of us.” Aint that the truth and what an awesome quality it is in our God to reach out to all of us right where we are. I like the Jesus as the “bad boy” analogy as I have never heard that before. It resonated with me and gave me something to chew on. Jesus was def. a rebel in his time! This was well written and as always I just want to say that you do a great job of reiterating your messages!

      So true. I need to remember this, especially at work. Some people really are challenging, yet, your right, I don’t have a clue what’s going on in their life. Very convicting.

      I went to Catholic school for my of my life and I’ll never forget my favorite nun, Sister Ann, describing Jesus to us as a “the hippie bad boy of his time”. I’ve reflected on that analogy more times than I can count. I love your gorgeous blog and your inspirational words so much!

      big smile! well done! lead them as you follow HIM!

      God is constantly pursuing us – it is Him willing the good for us – displaying His LOVE FOR US!

      not one thing we could ever do to earn that, repay it or deserve it! THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!


      Love this.

      Amen and Amen!

      I think you and I lived similar lives in our younger years. Bad boys stole my heart with a simple glance…and I could not get enough of them! Thankfully once I found out that Jesus was the only rebel who could truly fill my heart, I left those other bad boys in the dust….and married a good guy. But he’ll tell you he’s a bad boy. ;)

      Wow, I guess I never really thought of Jesus as a bad boy before. But he definitely did go against the grain didn’t he? This post made me really think about a certain friendship I have that has been really draining me…she’s a talker and a complainer and my role is mostly to listen. I’ve been dodging her calls and cutting her short just because I don’t have the energy. I need to stop focusing on ME and realize that I provide a support for her, and in a certain sense she needs me and I’ve been letting her down.

      This spoke to me today, Ashley.

      This is an awesome post. I love the explanation behind it all. Jesus was considered a ‘bad boy’ of his time because no one thought the same way he did nor did they believe in a ‘higher power’. Sometimes we have to keep our faith even if the people who surround us aren’t as dedicated as we are to the Holy Father, and situations can bring our faith down too. But we must always remember..the ultimate sacrifice!

      Outstanding message.


      This post really touched my heart Ashley.

      HAHA took me a second to get Bentley. I hope we don’t see much more of him! Love the sparkler picture!!

      Amen Ashley……….. I never thought before of Jesus like that!

      I know of a few bad boys that were taken under the wing of others and they eventually became reformed and have a wonderful witness now for the Lord – some are now Pastors. Great message :)

      Interesting :) I have always wondered why we are attracted to those bad boys, haha, now I know and it makes so much sense. Thanks for sharing :) I just found your blog from Lauren, love it :)

      Good food for thought.